Like when I quit cleaning my house and hired a mom who loves doing it and is grateful to get paid to do it. Have you considered that quitting could make life a lot easier, more meaningful, and much more fulfilling?Īs I have given myself permission to quit that which no longer serves me, I’ve gained the freedom to have more intentional experiences in both the personal and professional areas of my life. I understand now why even when I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, quitting was not an option – at least not one that came without stigma. I heard a voice in my head telling me the horrible things others might think or say of me. I was running the childhood operating system that taught me I would be in big trouble if I didn’t finish what I started. I have clung to unhealthy relationships, events, and situations that caused me a great deal of stress, pain, and suffering because I have feared that by letting them all go, I would be labeled a loser, a quitter, or a slacker. Thinking back, my biggest regrets were not things I didn’t do, but activities I hung onto that led me nowhere, and actions and reactions I put up with way longer than I now think I needed to. What if you stopped being loyal to what doesn’t work, what doesn’t serve you and what, simply put, just makes you miserable? We allow ourselves to be unpaid, unvalued, and unappreciated, we package it as loyalty, courage, and persistence, and put a fancy bow of self-sacrifice on top. Sometimes our hesitation and resistance to quitting keep us stuck. I’ve learned that quitting can be the best thing you’ll ever do. Just do it.īecause of the negative connotation of the words loser and quitter, we typically want to avoid these labels at all costs.Īt our spiritual core, we were designed to win, achieve, and progress, so it is natural that we do not want to fail and may choose to keep going rather than quit when we very well know we should. If at first you don’t succeed, try again. The difference between winning and losing is never quitting. Quitters never win and winners never quit. You may think you are helping them by sticking around, but are really sabotaging their goals, as well as filling up the space that someone else would be an excellent fit for and who needs and wants (and will appreciate) the opportunity to contribute to them. The thing is that when you do something and your heart is not in it, you are in disservice of the organization, team, or person and a disservice to yourself because you are not contributing from a generous place. Plus, you promised that you would do it, and you take your word seriously. Have you ever heard your intuition tell you that you don’t want to keep walking the path you’re on? You feel like you’ve achieved a certain status, you’re comfortable, and you’ve invested so much. Others may have the perception that you are quitting the perfect career, the perfect relationship, or the perfect opportunity, but trying to keep up the fallacy of picture-perfect is one of the most toxic behaviors you can adopt and one that can contribute to greater sadness, depression, and brokenness. If it no longer feels right, if you are not doing it wholeheartedly, if you’re not excited about it and, in fact, you avoid and dread it, it’s time to quit! Just quit! They didn’t even want to do ballet anymore! They wanted to quit because it no longer made them happy. It was an exhilarating experience for sure, but they were exhausted and didn’t want to do it again. They performed three nights in a row to a raving crowd and they felt really accomplished. They had different parts, so that required extra hours waiting for one another until the practice was done. They were so excited to be cast – that is until they realized the rehearsals were brutal. It is our family tradition to go see it on opening night and this time they would be a part of it! One year, my daughters decided to audition for The Nutcracker. You know that behind every successful kid recital, game, or presentation is a mother who drove, waited, encouraged, purchased gear, paid for lessons, lost sleep, and put her own needs, wants, and dreams aside. They did really well and I was very proud of them and happy to see that my efforts – and theirs – were paying off. They learned discipline, poise, and art appreciation. I enrolled them at the tender age of three in the best academy in town. Consider this: Ballet was something that my daughters seemed really passionate about and striving to do better at.
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